Ben

[lokheed]

Ben got sick last week.  He started throwing up at lunch at school on Wednesday, and continued throwing up for the entire afternoon while he was here at the house.  I left for Boston on Thursday morning, and I called every day to check on him while I was gone.  This past week has been spring break, so he hasn't had school and Sara hasn't had work.  He continued to be sick throughout the early part of the week, finally showing signs of improvement as the week wore on.  Again, I called every single day to check up on him.  One evening after work I went down to Sara's place to spend some time with him because he really wasn't up to going out and spending a night here.  I talked to Sara this morning about this weekend, and she thought Ben was doing well enough to spend the normal weekend here.  Although I offered to come down and pick him up after work, Sara thought it would be an easier transition for him if she dropped him off.

Apparently he cried in the car all the way here.  When Sara arrived with Ben (as well has her sister riding along), Ben was sobbing.  He appeared to be terrified to be here in the house.  He begged to take his backpack and go back to the car.  Ultimately, Sara took him back home with her.

I don't know why he was so afraid to be here, I honestly don't.  I am pretty sure it's not the dog, they have gotten along well.  He certainly hasn't had any issues coming here after school every day.  But I could tell from Sara's body language that she thought there was some reason, and that I was hiding something from her.  A few weeks back she noticed some bruises on him and asked where they came from, and I did not know.  Whatever she is imagining, I have no way to disprove.  It scares the hell out of me.

I am going to go down and get Ben on Sunday and take him out for the afternoon.  I think once he starts back at school on Monday things will get better.  My gut feeling is that he is just out of sorts from being so sick for so long, and having his schedule all screwed up.  Getting back to a normal routine should help.  I feel awful for him, and there just doesn't seem to be anything I can do.

Comments

Well, you *are* a bad dad.

[(Anonymous)]

Forcing your child to go on Snow White over 1,000 times, what kind of sadistic bastard are you? You take him anywhere he wants to go, buy him anything he asks for, give him a couple pounds of candy every weekend. Of course the kid doesn't want to be here!

Or your ex-wife could just be a psycho bitch, who likes to keep you in a submissive role, always picking apart your parental role. Because no one is as good as the Mommy. Even if the Mommy is the one who does less, spends less time with him than the dad. This sick week notwithstanding.

Ben is just twigged out over being sick, the child had never been this sick in his life. He spent 7 days in his underwear or jammies too sick to move, and then two days later he supposed to go back to his routine. If she would have left Ben here, he would have been happy in about five minutes, but even if not, she had no right to take him back away. I think Sara got a lot of satisfaction out of Ben's misery being here, she gets validated in her attitude that she is sooooo beneficient to let you have time with Ben.

Of course, I hate the bitch, so take what I say for what it's worth. I've seen her be cruel or dismissive to you too many times now.

Crap, I can't remember my password, so gotta post anon.